about being a social being

"At the end of the world, there is a café, where eventually we all shall meet." Vennaskond

In my time in a french preparatory school with a complimentary intense training schedule, I have found that I have little time to spare. Any activities I could want to participate in will be at the cost of sleep. The consequence of this is that the socialising I do tends to be limited compared to an average university student.

Furthermore, I am not the most outgoing person so I seldom connect with people on the first encounter. At the start of my first year, this left me quite frustrated, I had not formed my closest relationships in the span of 6 months. It sounds absurd when thinking back on it, but that is what I believed university to be. A paradise-like place where connections are formed with utmost simplicity and at an unfathomable pace.

In my opinion, the identity we attach to ourselves plays a big role in the way we act. As I said I am not the most outgoing person. I phrase it like that since I have proved to myself that I am a little outgoing. The phrasing changes it all – a month ago I would have simply said that "I am not an outgoing person" which is radically different. Faking it till you make it is a real way to do things. If you act like the person you want to be then it will be a lot easier to become that person.

On another note, I have realised in the span of this time in university how important it is not only to create new relationships but to also nurture and keep alive the ones of the past. Keeping alive a relationship with someone when you see them daily is easier than trying to speak to someone on a consistent basis who lives 2000 km away.

It is why I have found that as with other things, setting the bar lower is the way. This is one of the goals I will try to implement in my accountability program which I brought up last week. The precise goal would be to send at least one message to an acquaintance or a person to who I have not spoken in a while during a week. This will create opportunities and that is all I really need – more opportunities.

This Week's Suggestions:

🎬 The One Subject You Really Need to Study: Your Own Childhood:

Have you considered that your childhood plays a big role in your current life? Because I had thought about it but never ruminated on it. This video caused rumination. If you are not ready to go down this path today I do highly suggest you come back to it later – it is worth a watch.

🎶 "Maailma lõpus on kohvik, kus kunagi kohtume kõik" by Vennaskond:

This Estonian song is powerful. The title of it is"At the end of the world, there is a café, where eventually we all shall meet." This silly thought is very comforting. Listening to this song is like reading a book – I can imagine exactly what this café looks like for me, and all the people that are in it. In my eyes, it is a crowded place with pleasant background chatter. The dim-lit lights in there are just there as a formality. The space is kept alive with live fire in the form of candles on tables and a cosy fire in the chimney. Needless to say, I have quite a connection to this song.

That is all for this week!